Whatever the answer, I know my motives are ugly. But I also know that the first step in the process of eliminating a bad habit is admitting that the habit needs to go away. The second step, then, is soliciting God's help ('cause goodness knows I can't banish a bad habit single-handedly). Even David challenged God to bring his faults to light, saying in the famous Psalm 139, "Search me O God and know my heart. Test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and then lead me in the everlasting way."
So in the same way, I will challenge God to reveal and eliminate ugly parts of my speech patterns. I know that when a person gets rusty or under-rehearsed in the practice of affirming loved ones, compliments tend to roll off the tongue like boulders -- sluggish, laborious and awkward. I want there to be a ease and naturalness to my edifying speech. I want my words to bring life as I praise and celebrate my family and friends.